Wednesday, March 18, 2015
Yup. Kiddies, I've had some good dates lately. Stop and sit down. TT know that there is hope.
This one dude asked me out via online and he's a retired colonel. Yup, since I've had a brush with felons these days, I researched him. Everything was legit. He wasn't hot, but he was cute and nice.
Big sigh of relief.
And, I forgot to tell you about Big Al who is the liquor store guy I've been flirting with for months and has nothing at all to do with online dating. He kinda reminds me of John Goodman when he played "Dan" on "Rosanne," in a good way, a good old boy who knows how to dress and wear his hair yet still be down to earth. A biker but with a brain and a heart of gold
See, it works sometimes! Al even accepted my Facebook request tonight.
Things CAN WORK dating-wise, when you are older or if you are young and online dating, my kiddies, but you must be PATIENT and willing to wait YEARS. That's the shitty part that no one want to hear. That you might wait years and years, but it DOES happen.
There's so much more I'd like to share, but I'm not jinxing it.
Monday, March 9, 2015
BUT the pickin's in South Dakota aren't just odd; they're all felons. I had yet ANOTHER date with a felon!
Dooders said this about Plenty of Fish, "Dude, it's Plenty of Felons." No doubt.
But this one was clever and educated. Let me explain. 1. from a good family. 2. has TWO bachelor degrees and a masters in physical therapy. Now, doesn't that sound good? Only married once. Had a successful physical therapy practice worth quite a tidy bundle? I even knew of his sister. Sounds good right? AND LET ME CLARIFY. HE IS DROP. DEAD. GORGEOUS. GEORGE CLOONEY. GORGEOUS.
Until our favorite reader and gumshoe, TT, did a little research on him and discovered he was going by an alias in South Dakota and was indicted in Wyoming under a slightly different name. According to my bro TT:
"1) His ex-fiance Nicole Young is in jail NOT on drug charges, but b/c he set her up in a grand larceny scheme, he is a major con artist who was arrested in 2012 for trucks full of stolen goods from Home Depot and Walmart, he was robbing places and returning stolen goods; he then went to a hotel, where he robbed a safe and other items. He was arrested and faced up to 20 yrs in prison & a $20,000 fine. So, methinks that's why he lost his (therapy) business and home (which he likely purchased with money he'd scammed off those businesses)."
If that's not terrible enough, I "emergency texted" my girl C who is a prominent business woman and knows all the bigwig families like his in town. It went from horrible to worse.
She said he also got busted for making and selling meth. Great! Hello Breaking Bad! She said, "I'm damned serious. RUN. RUN for your life from this guy. He is bad news. He's fucked up his parole and been sent back in the slammer several times"
TT said to NEVER confront this guy; he's too dangerous. To just use the "fade away" technique and hope he'll go away. I did for 24 hours with no response. Happy sigh.
Then tonight I get this text: "I'm feeling a bit better today from my cold. Would you want to risk meeting me tomorrow?" What an interesting verb he used. Risk. Yeah, like risk my fucking life to date him? No, I don't think so, loser. Tomorrow, we had scheduled another date, but by Sunday night and after me finding he was the next Don Corleone in waiting aka Scarface, I had made up an excuse and blew off our dinner date.
Now what? Peace Order? Tell him I'm gay/found someone new? The worst is, he asked for one of my published short stories to read, and I gave him an electronic copy. It has my address on it.
Monday, February 16, 2015
Say it's not so.
Or say that's me talking into an old, defunct, 1940's bakealight phone set outside an abandoned mine. Yup, that's about right.
So I finally heard back from the Nebraska Dude who took me out the first weekend after Thanksgiving; he was the dude who brought me flowers, took me to a very high end restaurant, held my hand, was a total gentleman and told me he really liked me, then proceeded to completely disappear until after New Year's, then make plans to take me out, then disappeared again.
Only to find that when I texted him a week ago, that he'd found a girlfriend after all.
Easy come. Easy go. At least he had the class to wish me luck and call me "a real sweetheart." 3-stars.
Last Friday, I was supposed to go out with another nerd from Nebraska, but after talking to me only 30 min. on the phone, texted me early Friday morning, that he didn't think we had anything in common, (aka, doesn't want to spend the money on dinner.) I mean, really? That equates a cheapskate, so I'm glad he bailed early enough for me to make other happy hour arrangements.
Now, there's another ner, I mean, potential local guy who's texting me. He also has his masters like me, is creative, allegedly sold a few physical-therapy businesses, but oddly has "smokes occasionally" box box checked on his website. Uh. I would think someone in the business of taking good physical care of others wouldn't smoke, but what do I know? Here, in this forever-stuck-in-1985 city, nothing passe shocks me. I suspect this one has some Tom Foolery, so I'll keep you posted.
Let me tell you about Phone Psycho Guy.
Firstly, I should have learned my lesson last summer from Indifferent Guy, in that, if I'm not attracted to a guy, then I should NOT let him pursue me.
But I'm sometimes slow to learn. And I have this stupid theory that an average-looking guy is going to be nicer than a cute guy. Not true.
Anyway, I let this average-guy, Monty, start texting me, with the stupidly hopeful notion, that he might somehow over time, get cuter and fun.
In fact, he texted me too much, to the point where I started blowing him off.
Until, I got this snarky text, "What are you doing this weekend? I suppose you're busy."
Which I was. And I didn't like that tone, so I replied something to the effect that I was indeed "busy."
He in turn said that I must be a "homo-guy"or a ""sick chick with issues"" because I always take too long to text him back, and probably didn't even want to meet him.
Uh, yeah, duh. And are you effing kidding me--you're calling me a dude? I texted him that I wished people wouldn't hide behind electronics.which led to him calling me on my cell.
And proceeding to YELL at me. Why? He was yelling/demanding why am I even on a dating-website if I never want to meet anyone or be bothered to text back promptly. Hey, great way to impress!
Hello? Yelling at me. I let him yell about 10 seconds more while I sat there in shock. Then I promptly said, "Monty, I'm afraid you're too combative for my taste--take care (which always means fuck you)," then I hung up on him.
Amazing. I wonder if him and Felon Guy are roommates? LOL. Stay tuned.
Thursday, February 12, 2015
Because I was THAT sure we were an item.
Let me explain. Our first date was right out of a romance novel. He was tall, cute, well-mannered and charming. Smart, he invented one of the first radial "airplane" motorcycles. Popular. All over Google. In fact, if you're nosy, you can easily find him on Google.
Anyway, our first date lasted 8 hours, and it was wonderful. He asked permission to hold my hand. Texted each other all week long. He called our first date "amazing," and asked me out last Saturday.
We went on a romantic walk around a lake, two vineyards and dinner. It was one of the best dates of my life, and he thought the same.
Then, as we were preparing for Valentine's, I get this text:
"Natalie, I got to be honest. I heard from an old girl friend that I haven't seen in 5 years. And it's messing with my head today." I replied that I would bow out if he wanted to see her, and I got this response:
"Don't want to date her but maybe think I shouldn't date at all for a bit if that makes sense?"
I sadly replied that I understood.
Then late last night I get this confusing text obviously meant for someone else:
"I do :)"
I texted him this morning, that his text was obviously meant for someone else. And I've heard nothing in response. NOTHING. Crickets.
Nice. Why. Do. I. Try. This guy seemed really nice, honest, into me, and genuine. I wish I could turn this post into something humorous, but I just can't right now.
I haven't even told you about the Phone Psycho Guy or the dude I'm meeting tomorrow for happy hour. That should at least be funny.
Staying positive. I simply must, and thank you, Universe, for spinning this sad one right out of my life before I got hurt.
Saturday, January 17, 2015
This new year 2015 is taking no lip. In fact, I had to tell a would-be date I had planned on all week long to shove off.
He looked so GOOD on paper. Owned a successful HVAC business in California, still has a hobby ranch there. Came out here to retire, built a gorgeous 6 bedroom, 3 bath, recording studio, 2 fireplace, home up on the cliffs overlooking town out by Chapel Lake, financial security! A baby grand piano, a concert level pianist. We had lots in common, and couldn't wait to meet.
Until, a little voice in me decided to Google his name.
What shows up? The U.S. District Attourney's Office--District of South Dakota. Charges from two years ago, probation. Selling weed with a 357 Smith and Wesson with the serial number scratched off. To me anyway, there is a big difference between a hippie smoking the occasional joint, and someone running around Sons of Anarchy-style, toting around a big weapon with the numbers off, armed and SELLING weed. That's no Ben and Jerry's happy-laid-back-hippie who's only offense is eating all the Pringles in one sitting.
Then there's another charge, but for some reason I can't get the article, but it reads like this, "_________, Tina Marie harboring a fugitive . . . child pornography . . . pleaded innocent . . ."
WTF. And the MOST important article, and I can't get it to open!? Well, it does open, but it takes me to an exhaustive list of crimes committed in the state for the ENTIRE year. I DO feel like researching it, but will have to on someone else's faster computer.
So, I realize I MUST BOW out of this date. As in immediately. I know myself too well, that if he were charming and good looking enough in person, it'd be harder to follow my gut. Still, I could have asked for the story on the actual date, been all judicial and simply straight up asked him to explain himself, but how would that have gone?
"Wow, this pizza is really good!" he'd say.
"Yeah it is (awkward silence) so I got a neat idea for a game, let's Google our names and see what comes up. You first!"
So I texted him.
"Hi Troy. I'm gonna have to pass today. I put your name into Google, and it freaked me out with some charges against you in court (?). I'm a pretty law-abiding person. And I wish you all good luck. I don't want any trouble. Hope you understand."
I get this text:
"That's fine. I was in possession of a firearm with an altered serial number. I had inherited it from my father's estate. He aquired it from a loan he'd given to one of his mechanics. Bad luck. I've never been in trouble with the law before. Oh well. Can't say I appreciate being scrutinized that way anyways. You could have just asked. I would've told you anyways. So be it."
I texted: "I was only trying to send you a 'friend request' on Facebook. That's how all that showed up in Google. Have you ever Googled your name? It shows all government records. It shows what is out there about you."
And the great last text I got? His famous, noble last words?
Whatever? Can you believe it? How come no story about the selling weed with a gun? How come no story to explain the other horrific charge?
How about blaming it all on me? Let me guess this straight. Women are just supposed to willy-nilly just believe everything a stranger says without doing some leg work?
This is one great thing about the internet. Sigh.
What ironically led me to do this search on him was yet another internet guy I've met. This one CLAIMS to be a retired Canadian Mountie Special Forces retired agent. CLAIMS. Anyway, it was him who told me to be this cautious with this cat to begin with. So, for that, I'm grateful.
Stay tuned. There's more men lurking in the internet shadows.
The Detective Dater
Monday, December 29, 2014
Now, we're getting ready to roll in the new year. And roll out some old dudes.
No word from Crackie. Surprising. Not. Nebraska Guy who owns his own electrical business BUT took me out for a wonderful dinner earlier this month has gone AWOL, too. So typical. So boring. So flaky.
However two new dudes, rolled in via my internet site. One is one who asked me out about a year ago and lives surprise, surprise, in Wyoming.
Wyoming Theory goes as follows.
The good dudes who are from western South Dakota are all married or losers. The marrieds are snapped up immediately after college. The losers remain here. Western South Dakota has very few good paying jobs, so the single smart guys who are not losers, go and work either west, in oil fields of Wyoming or north in the energy business of North Dakota. There's a shit ton bunch of them.
Hence, Dean (why not use real names?) is texting me. He's in the energy business. These energy guys are all hot, but they all seem flaky too. Just like Greg, his real name, (aka Wildcat) who's in the energy biz in North Dakota (see a few blogs back), who still occasionally texts me, constantly replying, "I need to make time to come down and meet you," but never does because he's always flying off to Montana on his off days to ride horses at some friend's ranch or flying instead to Georgia to spend time with his kids and grandkids (noble, but why kid yourself and chicks like me that you have time to date?). WTF.
So it's not boring. But nothing ever seems to come of it.
The other day I texted Energy Bill (aka, "Deadwood Dick"), "We have been texting for going on a year. This is RIDICULOUS. Let's meet or forget it." He texted back, "Yes, we will You're right." But then I haven't heard from him since.
See where this is going?
It gets OLD. More later.