Lately, my friends and I have been really going through the mill either trying to find love, repair broken love, or just fall in love with someone who floats their boat.
One friend is just counting the days til her kids are grown so she can leave her husband. Another is thinking of settling with a guy who while nice, isn't very cute at all. Another has been getting one flakey lover after another shaking up his world and leaving him in despair.
Seems other than one sister and one friend, everyone else is having not much luck, including myself.
He reels me in, whenever he feels like I'm ready to leave forever, yet he's not willing to do any of the work needed to make a relationship thrive. And sending me an invitation to his Facebook where I found out that his relationship status was set to "single" as opposed to "in a relationship," leaving it blank, or even better, "it's complicated," like what I thought we had, really sent me for a loop. This coming down the pike after telling me TWO WEEKS AGO that he wanted me to consider moving to Florida for good, is just overwhelming.
There's so many people with dysfunction in this world, the above included, so many damaged people. And I've never thought of myself as co-dependant, but it seems, that's a very popular role when you have so many damaged people out there.
I really think it boils down to a few simple facts:
1. many Gen. X'ers came from broken families, and you can say all you want, but that creates dysfunction in people, like my b/f situation. While it's not impossible, it's not very likely most of the time to see someone come from a bad family life then turn out to be a really kind, caring and compassionate person ready to foster a stable relationship.
2. Fear of intimacy/committment KILLS many relationships.