Friday, June 13, 2014
Indifferent Dude, Bouncers and 1980 Moustaches
Speaking of reflecting, I don't think many people do that anymore between relationships. A "Bouncer" doesn't take time off from relationships. A Bouncer is a person who skips from one failing relationship, immediately to a new relationship (with no single time in between), sometimes having two feet in two different relationships at the same time. 1. doing so is not fair to either relationship and 2. is unhealthy and allows no time for the Bouncer to learn or heal. 3. and is really narcissistic when you get right down to it because why they're doing it in the first place is secret fear (they're not aware of it) of being alone, despite all costs to others' involved. My ex is a "Bouncer" and bounced right into another relationship with another Bouncer (she just recently got divorced from an abuser) just as he was closing the door on his last relationship, the embers not even cooled. His ex is no better and also Bounced into a new relationship, and in fact, moved in with him, IMMEDIATELY after said break up.
How is this healthy or normal?
I have to admit, I've even been a Bouncer before, but not for a long, long time. The past ten years has taught me that being one isn't cool. In fact, I cringe at my past Bounces.
So what's going on as of last night?
Indifferent Dude is Growing Slightly Cuter
The meeting with Indifferent Dude last night was FUN. Not only did he pick me up and help me into his vehicle with my crutch, he ran to open all doors for me and give me his arm. Aahhhhhh. How sweet. And, get this, he picked up the tab without that awkward tab-grabbing ritual you sometimes have to go through!
We talked books, and I loaned him one. Even though he wore his "work Dork clothes" Dockers (e'gads!) and a tucked in shirt, he looked sort of cute in a nerd-way, but not so nerdly that he was getting dressed up to go to a Star Trek convention or anything. I'm up for getting to know Indifferent Guy!!!!
Then there's Magnum PI Mustache--
I'm not remotely interested in this one. But he's a project I'm considering taking on, since he's begged me to help him. I originally wrote him, not to be condescending, but because he had the worst profile I have ever seen, yet seems like a clueless, nice guy.
"I've had this stache since 1980 and my first Trans Am. You think women like it?" he asked.
"Uh, no. Women don't normally go for a thick lip-shrub full of food-crumbs which engulf their entire lip. And 1980 called and Olivia Newton John wants her leg warmers back, so NO, it's not cool," I wrote.
"Really? No gal would like that?"
"Uh, (not wanting to further hurt his feelings) maybe someone in a geriatrics' home."
Also envision a 1970's Marty Feldmen style hairdo with a horribly receding hairline. Then this lip-bush-Magnum P.I. mustache business. Imagine several pics of tucked in shirts, pants that come up to his moobs. His gawd awful shirts have had to been from 1979. He admitted that no one writes him back and asked me for my help. It might be more than I can take on. LOL. OR it could be lots more fodder for this blog.